I have loaned gear to friends and family. Nothing, with one exception, has ever been returned. I’ve loaned out two turntables- one apparently disappeared and the other- my relative said he threw it out (a Kenwood) once he bought a cd player, explaining I already had another turntable. A cassette deck (Teac) was loaned to another relative and that too was thrown away. Both were still working and in neither instance when gear was tossed was I ever asked if I want it back. Two receivers have also vanished, and one of those was a very nice pioneer 50 series receiver. I’ve also loaned photo gear and there, I never got back a Nikkor zoom lens and a pro battery pack for a flash.
I no longer loan gear to anyone- with the exception of having loaned a $25 Bluetooth receiver which in fact I got back.