Months later, I'm still working on this upgrade. I finally had some time to spend listening to speaker options and managed to knock out a bunch of contenders, although I was surprised at how good most of them actually were. Discounting a bad fit for a particular room, it seems that most speakers in the $5k+ range are at least fairly good if not great. Here are my notes if anyone is interested.
KEF Reference 1 Meta: Great starting point, these did a lot really well and I could probably be happy with them. They lacked dynamics and perceived impact though, also tone felt just a bit off, almost artificial in some ways.
Borresen C1: Beautiful and fast, with excellent detail and imaging. Tone was a little too thin for my liking. And the price seemed higher than the sound could justify, as good as it was.
Mon Acoustic PlatiMon mkII: Contender! These hit the balance just right between detail and full body tone. Really dynamic with excellent resolution. Highly impressive.
Franco Serblin Goldberg: Another contender, stunning midrange, excellent balance, also look like pieces of fine art on speaker stands.
B&W 805 D4: Surprisingly competent, very enjoyable all around performer with no weak spots but also didn't quite stand out enough. A safe bet, enjoyable if not the best. I actually liked these significantly more than the KEF which was surprising as in the past it was always KEF>B&W. Price feels high for what this is, I could probably get a nice discount from a dealer though.
Piega Coax 411 g2: Somewhat similar to the Borressen in sound, beautiful immediacy. Great with acoustic performances. If I planned on using a subwoofer these would be a compelling option, lacking impact and richness on their own though.
Marten Oscar Duo: Among the most musical sets I auditioned, these get my toes tapping. Lacking a bit of realism and top end air which kept them one step down from the best I heard. I bet the higher Marten models are excellent.
Gauder Akustic Berlina RC3: Another really good one that just didn't stand out enough. I've enjoyed the big Gauder speakers over the years, these had some of the same magic but I would argue not enough.
Joseph Audio Pulsar 2 Graphene: Quite possibly my favorite of the bunch. Almost jaw droppingly huge presentation, also very well rounded, these just sound like real music. I need to hear these one more time along with the Franco Serblin and Mon Acoustics to see which of the three is the winner. But I am leaning towards the Pulsar.
Also still researching all in one units to pair with whichever set of speakers I end up with. Right now the ones that appeal most are the Molo Mola Kula with integrated DAC card, the Thrax Ares MK2, and the Gato Audio suggested above by @kirkwallace . We'll see what I come up with. I imagine any of these three, mixed with any of my three top speaker choices above, would be a massive improvement over the modest current system.

