I can't explain how I restructured my interest in audio, but did not buy a Magazine or enter a High Street Store from that time on for many many years and Larger Audio Events were carefully selected for being part commercial / part system owner enthusiasts as the exhibitors.
I started meeting people with a Hobby in Audio and a keen interest in non commercial products and even DIY Builds of audio equipment.
I was to be invited to be demo'd systems set up in homes that really shone, and were totally attainable as a cost and a support offered.
The rest is History, I never looked back, and was to get to a place where I was genuinely really really enjoying my Hobby.
Great post!
This was also my experience...
I was impotent and unable to pick the dreamed pieces of gear, unable to choose and stay happy once i did and unable to afford what i wanted...
Then i quit reading about gear...
I read about acoustics to understand sound, i enter in modifications of gear, Tweaks, and experiments in acoustics...
I had then fun, results, and nowadays i mostly listen music satisfied...
I means i reached the minimal acoustical satisfaction threshold, with a 1000 bucks system (headphone+speakers/room) give me 15,000 bucks i will reach the optimal acoustical satisfaction threshold, give me 250,000 but perhaps i will need more, in these waters i had no experience but i will target the "maximal acoustical satisfaction threshold .