Problem with bass managment with many universals-

Hi all! I have heard of bass managment issues with certain players before, but I have yet to find one "universal" that has and good solution, or even slightly gets it right. Has everyone else just ignored, not noticed, or not found a good way to comprimise with one "universal" player in a system?
Here are my delimas that I have encountered. I have noticed this with most surround recievers and pre pros that are descent...When using the multichannel input, which one has to with dvda or sacd, one is limited to the non existant bass managmnet within the player.
To further detail: I own a B&K AVR507 and have tried this with 4 different denon and pioneer players as well as a yamaha that all are universal and have "bass managment"...
I own the dvd2900-soon to be modded, but have a dv45a and have tried the dv47ai as well as the dvd2200 and dvd1500 yamaha. Here is my first major problem. I, as many of you, have very capable front speakers that can play all but the lowest octive. I have a sub. I have tuned the room with the notch filter on the AVR507-if owners out there have not done this you are missing the boat!!! I am spoiled with the improvements this makes and it is "global"-in other words, it effects all selected inputs -OTHER than the dvda/sacd multichannel in...On this input, we now have to resort to using bass management that is generally associated with 5 year old pro logic recievers and is geared for htib/sub sat systems that has fixed crossovers at 90-125 hz and has no sub output at all if fronts are selected as anything other that "small"-even then the sound is miserable and makes putting hi rez stuff in sound MUCH WORSE THAN REDBOOK with the proper set up.
DOES ANYONE ELSE FIND THIS ASS BACKWARD???
Better, has anyone found a fix for this ridiculous problem?
I would expect this problem with a 3-400 "universal" but have duplicated the same problem with the Denon dvd2900($1000) and the Pio Elite DV47AI($900)!!!
The only "fix" I have found is to run the fronts as large on the dvd player, tell it you have no sub, and run speaker wire from the mains from your front l&r amp/reciever in addition to the LFE/sub cable so that your sub works when playing HI REZ???????????????SOLUTION??????
It is truly ashame when my properly set up standard compressed dvd's-with highly compressed dolby digital and dts data streams and not to mention Redbook cd's through the same machine absolutely smoke the sound quality of the hi rez stuff because the manufactures and or the studios will not let people manipulate the "perfect???" signal to make it work right for there own systems and or rooms and or listening styles.
Does anyone have any help that will fix my problems, or better will many more chime in just to prove a point-If these type of problems keep occuring, I will never want to buy any of the new super resolution formats, because my old tried and true one still sound much better optimized...
I guess this is why vinal keeps holding on, Eh??? Anyway, I have made the plunge to purchace the new machines that will play the high res stuff in a stellar ht/surroung rig, and so far have halted all buying of dvda/sacd until I can figure this mess out-worse, I am a dealer for this and am supposed to be selling this mess to the public and have been to my dispare-please, if any manufactures and or reps read this TAKE NOTE and make me the fool...FIX THIS!!!