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seller etiquette

I have been reading here for a decade, first recent post under my newly found login.

I have contacted a seller about a subwoofer for a fair price. I asked if local pickup was an option. I got a response that it was. I wrote him that I would drive up, from 2 hours away, in 3 days. I told him I don't want to disturb him by plugging it in, I would just pay and pick it up, as I'd trust his word that it works. I was ok paying full price.

I then yesterday afternoon got an email that I needed to pay asap or he'd sell it to someone else as he got another offer. I didn't read the email until this morning when it had already been sold.

Is this normal? Fair? How could I have avoided it? Should have offered to pay in advance?  Should he had been waiting for my response and payment for a little longer?

 

 

parkergetdean
speedthrills
215 posts
 

Sure it is. Why would you think a seller would hold his sub for you without receiving either a sizable deposit or payment in full from you? You should treat in person pick ups the same as an online transaction- pay for it and then go get it. The reason why people try to NOT pay for it in advance is pretty simple. They really want the option of not committing until they see / hear it in person. As a seller whenever I do in person at my house I have the buyer either send me a large non refundable deposit or pay in full. Every "real" buyer has had no issue with either. 

roadwhorerecords
337 posts
 

@dekay 

I admire your attempt at an honorable resolution, but if I know them or not, I try to show all those with the respect. I too am a guarded person and understand concerns, but these are purchases, not you or your family's safety we're talking about. I believe the reason society is at the point it's at, is because of "Screw them, before they screw you" attitude. I'm not saying that is you, but, most of the posts I'm read here are just that. 

roadwhorerecords
337 posts
 

@speedthrills 

It's called your word. Either you believe in a man's word, or you don't. It says a lot about a person.

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dekay
6,215 posts
 

Road:

  • Genuine meaning: 

    A quick, positive "uh huh" can simply mean "yes," "I agree," or "I understand". It can also be used informally to show you are listening and to imply that a favor was no big deal. 

  • Sarcastic meaning: 

    Saying "uh huh" in a flat, drawn-out, or exaggerated tone can be a way of expressing disbelief, annoyance, or that you disagree with what is being said. The sarcastic use implies the opposite of the literal meaning of the word.

DeKay

parkergetdean OP
1,093 posts
 

Why would you think a seller would hold his sub for you without receiving either a sizable deposit or payment in full from you?

At this point I keep repeating myself and it feels like kindergarten with "Uh huh"s and reading/cognitive issues

I would think the seller would hold it for me because we agreed on a time and place and there were no ifs and buts. Full asking price. Just a pickup. No listening. If there were ifs and buts, it should have come up in 20+ messages. It's how humans communicate. On the planet where I live. 

But I understand: he did nothing illegal. My question was: how could I have avoided it. 

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