seller etiquette


I have been reading here for a decade, first recent post under my newly found login.

I have contacted a seller about a subwoofer for a fair price. I asked if local pickup was an option. I got a response that it was. I wrote him that I would drive up, from 2 hours away, in 3 days. I told him I don't want to disturb him by plugging it in, I would just pay and pick it up, as I'd trust his word that it works. I was ok paying full price.

I then yesterday afternoon got an email that I needed to pay asap or he'd sell it to someone else as he got another offer. I didn't read the email until this morning when it had already been sold.

Is this normal? Fair? How could I have avoided it? Should have offered to pay in advance?  Should he had been waiting for my response and payment for a little longer?

 

 

parkergetdean

The seller sends OP email, the OP does not respond, the OP is surprised and offended!?

Not a fact. I did respond, in less than 13 hours. By which time, it was too late. 

Fact: we agreed on something. Seller changes his mind. 

If I were the seller, I would have waited a day at least to give the buyer a chance. 

@mitch2 I understand. The difference in this situation: I have a long established presence on that site, 100% positive feedback. I exchanged over 20 messages about the deal and discussed the details of the pickup.

I guess I have been spoiled by good hearted and generous audiophiles (not represented in many of the comments here - reality check - check)

But I  have learned my lesson. Thanks for all the feedback.

@parkergetdean  +1 

I agree, today it seems people are too programmed about the "Right Now" and less about the "Right Thing" personally I would have shown common courtesy and waited. But I guess that shows about how we were raised. ✌️

"I guess I have been spoiled by good hearted and generous audiophiles (not represented in many of the comments here - reality check - check)

But I  have learned my lesson. Thanks for all the feedback."

 

Uh huh.

 

DeKay