Guys, thank you for taking the time to write the posts; it is truly appreciated! A few responses:
(1) I will not be driving any speakers with both amps at the same time, but the Denafrips Pre-Amp does give me the option to run 2 amps to a single set of speakers with just moving the speaker out cables. I know there are a few "2-in-1 out" switch boxes, but guessing that would degrade SQ.
(2) I've added several speakers you guys recommended to try to find a demo listening situation, I do live in Chicagoland with several good hi-fi shops....I've got appointments at 2 higher end shops this week to see if I can get some clarity.....Music Direct is an option as well, but no listening room. I will attempt to hear some of the speakers recommended here......at shops or AXPONA in a few weeks. Doubt that the Klipsch speakers will pass the wife test, so far the only ones she remotely liked were the Zu Soul Supreme and and Soul VI.
(3) I know it is hard to understand my wife having "veto power" on speakers, but we are spending a lot of money on the remodel and I can understand her position. Trust me, the Thiels would never have been sold otherwise.....they were my forever speakers. It's just not an option for me, and a fight I will not win. Sun Tzu has a lot that can be applied here, but "who wishes to fight, must first consider the cost" seems appropriate.
(4) Yes I do not like bright speakers, and sibilance drives me crazy. That being said, the Denafrips Pontus II/Hestia combination is a touch warm, the tube amp is the same, and the Nuprime amp sounded neutral based on the short listening period I had with it. So detailed speakers that are not harsh should be fine.