Where to start? sonically balanced system ..???

You hit on an excellent point. Getting components that work synergistically together is one of the most difficult aspects of piecing together a satisfying audio system. It is an ongoing trial and error process with few hard and fast guidelines. I struggled with this for years before I decided to give up the fight and go with components specifically designed to be used together. Accordingly, my current system is Spectral/MIT/Avalon in the precise configuration recommended by Spectral. Essentially, I let them do the system matching work for me. The results are much better than any previous results I have achieved trying to mate components not specifically designed to work together. Short of this approach, my next recommendation would be to look at how manufacturers are showing their products at trade shows (they usually have the best idea of what works best) or extensive in-home auditioning to ensure that any move you make is really a step forward.

Someone once wrote that you need to find a dealer you can trust and I wholeheartedly agree. If your dealer won't let you take things home to try overnight (at least) then find another one. The dealer can also (if trustworthy) give you advice. Non - online audio shopping has its merits. You will pay extra for the above but you'll have someone there to help you out if you run into problems. Once you've got the stuff home, play music that you're very familiar with so the differences will jump out at you. It's going to be up to you whether these differences are good or bad. Don't let other people tell you what's right. And by the way, have fun with it, this is all about TOYS, no?

1. Get speakers that sound great IN YOUR ROOM (treat IT, too!, with a neutral amp and source.

2. Get an amp that drives these speakers well, either integrated or monos with pre.

3. Get a front end that you LOVE the sound of with this "driven system"

4. Fine tune it with cables and isolation shelves, etc.

NOTE: Keep going to live acoustic concerts to remind yourself how ravishing and shrill, even, live music is!

Have fun and trust your ears.

PS Nice affordable system I recommend to friends starting out: Audio Refinement Complete Integrated ($800) driving Revel F20 or F30 or the like ($1500-$3k), with whatever $500
CDP synergizes well in your room.
Nice, neutral system to start with, with eminently sellable parts if you get itchy.

Subaruguru: tanxs :)

here is my current system ..

Mirage OM-10
and an old Akai receiver ..

should i start with source or amp ?

how to know what will work good togehter
and
also ..

in my region..it's almost impossible to get demo gears that u can bring home and test..
there is only one good gear dealer i know of..and it's not really close and they don't demo big $$$ stuff cause not enough $$$ ..

what to do in thoose case?
whould i try to find some people with the same speakers ?
or arrange a listening session with dealers i can try to find farther in city .?

tanx