I think the OP is directionally correct, though there are lots of good points added about having a system perform well at low volume.
I have two systems. My cabin system is in a much larger volume room that is better constructed and vastly more acoustically inert. I intend to build room treatments to improve things further, but it is already much better than the 2nd system even though the components are of similar quality.
Though I usually listen at moderate volumes in the cabin system, I will periodically find the volume higher than expected when someone wants to talk and I have to turn down the volume to speak with them. There is an effortlessness and ease at any volume that the 2nd system lacks.
The 2nd system resides in a living room I am unable (unwilling) to treat. While the components can play much louder without stress, I cannot listen at anywhere near that volume as the room becomes too active. It’s adds audible distortion. As a “system” (room included), it’s much lower performing than the cabin system. Indeed, I’m considering selling the entire system because it is so much more satisfying to listen to the other one. I spend more time there, too.
So I would generally agree that being able to reproduce dynamics fully is indicative of a better system. It’s certainly not the only requirement as fidelity to signal, full range, imaging, and the ability to have the speakers “disappear” are even more important to me. But a system that can’t scale dynamics effortlessly is surely indicative.
For reference, I primarily listen to jazz, classical and acoustic folk though I do put Pink Floyd and the like in rotation.

