the one that got away - how do you handle grief?
I just lost a bid for my dream speakers that I had been chasing for a decade. It was pretty stupid because I missed the last hour and maybe I would have won it with another $100. But maybe it's a sign, it's just a piece of hardware, that I should not be obsessed with. - "you can't always get what you want"
Did you always get the gear you thought would make you whole?
Years (decades) ago I was miffed about losing an auction for a pop artists's painting of MiLOU, but I bounced back by winning an auction (same artist) for 3 individual paintings of Snap, Crackle and Pop (for less than the MiLOU sold for). But recently (just last night) I splattered Sambal Oelek on my favorite White T-Shirt and things are looking bleak again. Hopefully voting this coming Tuesday will help offset those stains.
DeKay |
Disappointment, grief is the wrong word. The older you get, the more likely you will forget to bid like that. I did once, on something quite rare, not expensive, just a rare opportunity for a belt kit for a Viking 2 Track Tape Player from 1958. Unique flat textured belt. Forgot, felt quite foolish, but, you win some, you lose some, like any experience, anger at someone, it’s best to let it go. And, shorty thereafter, a new kit popped up, got it. Now, where the hell did I put it? |
@prof those are wonderful stories! Thanks for sharing. Vintage speakers definitely have a soul and character, they decide their own advanture. And several times I had the glitch too, 8 seconds away, my bid rejected and then lost. |
Sorry for your loss. Back in the day I used a bid sniping service so I wasn’t banging on my computer like a gamer. First off this is totally a First World problem, but I’m not discounting your loss. For me I do a 10th step on paper and discuss it with my sponsor. Then I can see my part in it and what God wants for me. This might not seem applicable in this situation, but it can work in all situations. And the Serenity Prayer is good also. FWIT I lost out on my dream girl in my twenties and unfortunately she passed away before she reached 30. Apparently God had other plans. Much Respect, Mike B. |
@buellrider97 this is absolutely a first world problem. I was just wondering where to go from here, keep chasing it, or focus on saving the Oceans Regarding girls that got away, yeah, too many. But all is well, when it ends well. |
