Hello OP! That is a long wish list of features. You likely have looked at the P6 as it is a match for your A21+. It does not have remote balance, and you can defeat tone controls but not adjust them remotely. And it has a DAC. I doubt you will find all the features you list, at least not in a decent sounding unit.
I would advise that you consider sound over features. There are many great preamps under 5k (maybe used) that will (to me) sound way better than the Parasound. I have owned the A21, the A51, the A21+ and the Halo JC1+ monoblocks. They were all easily bested by comparable Audionet amplifiers, first the Amps and then the Max's. As for the preamp, the Audionet Pre1G3 sounds way better than Parasound (to me). It opened my eyes to a whole world of better sounding stuff. The Parasound equipment is solid no doubt, but the Audionet gear is on another level.
Audionet is for me, but I am sure you will hear many other suggestions here soon that sound great, but lack those features.

