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seller etiquette

I have been reading here for a decade, first recent post under my newly found login.

I have contacted a seller about a subwoofer for a fair price. I asked if local pickup was an option. I got a response that it was. I wrote him that I would drive up, from 2 hours away, in 3 days. I told him I don't want to disturb him by plugging it in, I would just pay and pick it up, as I'd trust his word that it works. I was ok paying full price.

I then yesterday afternoon got an email that I needed to pay asap or he'd sell it to someone else as he got another offer. I didn't read the email until this morning when it had already been sold.

Is this normal? Fair? How could I have avoided it? Should have offered to pay in advance?  Should he had been waiting for my response and payment for a little longer?

 

 

parkergetdean
parkergetdean OP
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@kerrybh 

I made it clear that:

I promised to pay full price

We agreed on a time and place (4 hours drive for me)

I agreed to buy it without plugging it in

The seller agreed to all this. Never said: "if I have another offer", "you need to pay NOW to make sure I don't entertain other offers", etc.

At that point why was I turned down when someone else made an offer? Why wasn't I asked: can you pay, I am waiting for your response.

 

For the record: I conduct myself with the priority of treating others the way I hope to be treated. I would NOT screw a buyer I agreed to meet with in such a manner as described above.

parkergetdean OP
1,082 posts
 

It’s important to understand that you cannot leave feedback for someone until money has changed hands

Never was a question. I have no idea what this comment means.

parkergetdean OP
1,082 posts
 

I think it's fair to conclude that 50 or so % of the commenters here think this is fine.

Thank you for your feedback.

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parkergetdean OP
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@viridian that’s not how my brain and moral compass works but thank you for the explanation. I think it is fair to assume that when a local pickup is arranged, the point is to bring cash, look at the goods  and then go on our merry ways. I could be mean to a lot of people without any consequence, I can put dog poop bags in my neighbors’ mail box but I will not do that because I am a decent human being. I would rather bake a cake and put that in their mailbox.

Telling the user what guarantees a sale (e.g. I might change my mind at any minute, if you don’t pay now is a swell approach)

Lastly I still don't know what the feedback has to do with it.

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