seller etiquette

well I think what may not have been clear in your original post is whether the seller actually made an agreement with you that you would pick up the equipment at a certain time and place and exchange the money then. You then later said that you agreed with the seller on a time in place. If the seller agreed with you that you would pick up the equipment at his place at a certain time and receive payment then noI don’t think it’s normal. You may or may not have had a legally binding contract, but if someone makes a deal and then fails to follow through, I don’t blame you for being upset and this is not a seller with whom I would want to do business. On the other hand, if you just said hey, I’ll be there in three days and he made no commitment about those arrangements  I think he had no obligation to wait. I think it gets down to your word is your bond. Or it should be
 

@kerrybh 

I made it clear that:

I promised to pay full price

We agreed on a time and place (4 hours drive for me)

I agreed to buy it without plugging it in

The seller agreed to all this. Never said: "if I have another offer", "you need to pay NOW to make sure I don't entertain other offers", etc.

At that point why was I turned down when someone else made an offer? Why wasn't I asked: can you pay, I am waiting for your response.

For the record: I conduct myself with the priority of treating others the way I hope to be treated. I would NOT screw a buyer I agreed to meet with in such a manner as described above.

It’s important to understand that you cannot leave feedback for someone until money has changed hands

Never was a question. I have no idea what this comment means.

I think it's fair to conclude that 50 or so % of the commenters here think this is fine.

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