Gain level on a REL sub

You could be sitting in a null. A larger sub will still have the null.  Also, move the sub around. Including into the corner.

Try the sub right behind your seat.

Small rooms can be problamatic.

@OP. I know you say the situation was different with a previous sub, but perhaps you are expecting too much of the Rel. There's only so much a sub can do when the main speakers are limited in frequency extension.

But even given that, there is no way that any Rel sub should sound insufficiently loud - even well below its maximum gain setting.

If you connect using the low level input you can use a set of test tones and an SPL meter to get an objective measure of the subs output. That will be of use to you in moving the sub around in case it is on a null point in the room.

+1 it's not the sub, it's the placement.  I've got at least one "suckout" location in my room that completely cancels the bass; sounds like you've already found yours.  Get one sub properly set up before you consider a second.

I have been going through the subwoofer research myself as I consider moving from a Paradigm sub that is a HT design, but not super musical.  The REL are ones I am considering. On REL’s page and elsewhere though I see cautions that when going to a more musical and precise sub than one for home theater use one may find themselves disappointed at the lack of boom.  The notes will be more accurate but the punch perhaps less. Maybe you are experiencing this. 

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