Audio - Post Divorce

Over the years of being divorced I've come to the conclusion that no one should get married unless they are convinced that the person they want to marry is their best friend first. If you're in a relationship where you cannot confide your inner most thoughts and secrets without the other side becoming judgmental, forget the marriage and look elsewhere. 

In addition, once in a committed marriage, do not let the little slights go. Discuss them and air them out. Otherwise, those little slights just form another brick in the wall, a wall that eventually grows and becomes insurmountable. At that point, its over.

We divorced after 23 years. I drew up the agreement we both came up with including child support amounts. We remain cordial.

What surprised me is how long it took to become myself again, if that's even possible. After a year, I thought I was over it. Same for the following nine years. 

My only advice is take your time and learn to live alone. Ten years later, I'm a good cook, keep a good house, am financially stable, and have an awesome redhead. Had I met her three years ago, we would not have been a good match. 

Sorry for your pain. I wish I had a quick fix for you, but in my case it took awhile. I had fun along the way, but I held off major decisions until the dust settled.

gary

lou_setriodes: I've been through each and every one of the things you mentioned.... a MORE!
My passion is music and how it is conveyed to me through my home system. There is nothing or no one, so far, that can make more of a calming. soothing effect to my well being, as what I enjoy in this way.
Maybe, a change will come. Until then, I have the next best thing.