The Loneliest Hobby PART 1


As Roy Orbison penned his lyrics to Only the Lonely, he may well have had in mind those thousands of us who are audiophiles, passionately pursuing our hobby in complete isolation. We marvel at the detailed presentation as the Beatles sing about their lonely-hearts club, but for most of us in the audiophile world, there is no club. Only lonely hearts. We listen to these songs and many others in magnificent fidelity… but all by ourselves (see Eric Carmen, All by Myself). There is no one sitting next to us. We are in our listening rooms… alone.  

Even worse, many of us are “audiophiles anonymous,” not willing to admit to our addiction in public, mostly because past attempts at sharing our enthusiasm for our gear with friends has only led to embarrassment as they have walked away with puzzled looks on their faces and wondering if they should assist us in finding some professional help. And their concern pales in comparison to the worry and agony that rages silently in the hearts of our significant others. They watch helplessly as funds for college and kitchen remodels evaporate as we seek our next fix with our purchase of the latest speaker cables and power conditioners.

No one will ever understand us. But we press on, sinking ever deeper into the abyss of our internal psyches, defiantly sitting in solitude as we profoundly ponder the tonal nuances of our new XLR interconnects.

Is our hobby the least understood? Is it one of the loneliest and self-isolating of hobbies? Are concerns about our sanity valid? Is this self-isolation and self-indulgence actually unhealthy? Or is it beautifully and gloriously therapeutic? What, my fellow asylum-mates, do you think?

wester17

Let’s not put stereotypical labels on folks.  

“Do what you want….be what you are.”

I'm sorry, it's not the hobby that is lonely, it's you (and many of us).  Maybe get off the internet and do some volunteering for a charitable organization like a homeless shelter or neighborhood cleanup or take some classes or join a hiking club?

I think I get what the OP is scratching at.  At the root of it, even if we are sitting next to someone, the act of enjoyment of music is a personal and very much a solo thing.  Now to be able to lean over and go "that was awesome right?" is a powerful thing too.  If you don't have people that you can jabber about a bass line with, you need to find friends that are also in to this hobby.  I recommend going to hifi shops, or finding local listening groups.  If you're feeling something, chances are that someone else is feeling it too!

To me listening to and absorbing music is a very private personal thing as it is to each to various degrees. I do not need company for that in most cases. I find it hard often to get others to appreciate much of what I listen  to at a particular time. It becomes more of a barrier than a help.  My personal musical taste may be best described as most varied and esoteric. 
 

Now  evaluating hifi gear is a different beast.  Most could care less and no point in me boring them.  However getting together with another like minded person to help evaluate what’s heard is definitely a thing.  Shows are great for that.  I have friends who are interested but only on occasion, certainly not as a regular scheduled thing.   So it’s a mixed bag. 

If locking oneself in a room, living a very insular experience with their audio equipment as their hobby and means of entertainment, is what floats their boat. Who can suggest that it should be different, even if it can be very, very different?

Talking about audio devices between audio-minded friends is equivalent to repeatedly showing Holiday Snapshots, moving the same subject on to the non-audio-minded and the audience will go off and watch fresh paint dry for further entertainment.

Talk to complete strangers about how a source creates a signal and how that signal heads off on a journey of transfers to become an end sound, and what has one created. They are in the Company of a Captivated Audience. 

Introduce a person to their favourite artist tracks on a well-presenting audio system, and what is not to understand? There is an indelible memory now created for an individual.  

As mentioned, there's an audio enthusiast experience where, depending on the individual, which can be very different.