@emergingsoul my expressed concern about not having any tubes anywhere. Gotta have more tubes.
….I need something visual.
That’s YOUR preference, not his. Since it’s his space, only his preference matters.
Quite different from offering helpful suggestions offered tactfully that benefits HIM, not to your individual self.
Suggestions is often welcome if it’s in their best interest, not so much if it’s criticism of their choices.
Tactfulness is important.
“What do you think about tube gear?” Is better than the challenging “Why don’t you have more tube gear?”
”Do you think a screen might be beneficial for this space” vs the accusation of wrongdoing “Why don’t you have a screen?”
From your response seems like your only pointing at Jay and am not taking any responsibility for your part, a simple apology is not a substitute.
We know you are very disappointed with not being invited to the BBQ, but Jay is simply responding to actions and non-actions taken by you. From Jay’s perspective you created a problem for him to deal with, then told him to spend his money to cover up your mistake. If you tried fix the spill to the best of your ability, you would have demonstrated taking responsibility for your own actions and that you cared about and respected his stuff. Instead you took the easy way out that cost you nothing but a verbal apology and ignoring what it cost Jay. Talk is cheap, but actions speak louder than words.
