"the only issue is the gain in xlrs"
XLR's don't have gain. They're just connectors. In order for your "XLR's" to do anything productive, both components you are connecting have to be balanced in some way. If all the requirements for a balanced connection are not met, your "XLR's" turn into RCA's by default because only 2 of the 3 conductors in the cable are being used. A big portion, maybe even half, of the people using XLR cables have no idea that they're doing nothing more than a regular pair of cables. Just having an XLR jack on the back of a component doesn't guarantee anything. You still have to verify that the connection is balanced. For example, you may have an XLR jack on the back of a component labeled balanced. If you check the owners manual it may say something like, "Supports balanced cables". All that means is you have a single ended connection that uses XLR connectors. If you look inside the component, you'll see only 2 of the 3 pins are connected. If you ask the manufacturer, they'll say this option was included so if you only have balanced cables, you can use them and not have to buy new ones. This is true, but the real reason they do it is they hope you don't know the difference, and think its really balanced.

