I've enjoyed your Tête-à-tête. The topic you’ve engaged, is always difficult to discuss. It's better to do so in person and with a system at hand.
But @hilde45: Your following post (to use a music analogy) struck many beautiful chords:
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The eureka moment arrived when I recognized that the supposed opposition between "listening to sound" and "listening to music" is a category error dressed up as aesthetic wisdom.
The audiophile forum rhetoric goes like this: serious music lovers listen through the equipment to the music itself, while audiophiles obsess over "sound" — timbral qualities, imaging, detail retrieval — as if these were separate from musical experience. The implicit moral hierarchy is clear: one stance is authentic engagement with art; the other is fetishistic distraction.
But this is nonsense. Musical experience is constituted by acoustic properties. When I hear a string quartet's voices interweaving with clarity and spatial separation, that is the music — not some distraction from it. When I perceive the texture of a bow on string, the decay of a piano note into a concert hall, the precise timing of a drum kit's attack — these aren't obstacles between me and "the music." They are what makes the music what it is.
The false dichotomy dissolved once I saw that attentive listening to acoustic phenomena and engaged listening to music are the same activity under different descriptions. The supposedly "pure" music lover who claims to ignore sonic qualities is either self-deceived or listening so casually that most of what makes the performance distinctive passes unnoticed.
What I've realized is that the oscillation between critical and enjoyment modes isn't a compromise between opposed values — it's a natural rhythm of sustained attention. Sometimes I focus analytically on specific parameters to evaluate system performance or identify bottlenecks. Sometimes I let that analytical frame recede and simply track musical structure and emotional content. Both modes involve listening to the same thing: organized sound unfolding in time. The difference is attentional framing, not metaphysical category.
The "music is the reason" rhetoric functions primarily as identity maintenance — a way for audiophiles to reassure themselves and others that they're not shallow consumerists. But it's a defensive posture that accepts a false framing. The actual work of serious listening requires both modes and refuses the dichotomy.
I had another insight about room acoustics that revealed a related confusion: many audiophiles have internalized marketing that directs attention toward easily commodified upgrade paths (cables, amplifiers, DACs) while ignoring the dominant acoustic constraint that can't be sold as a discrete component. You can't buy "good room acoustics" at a dealer; you have to measure, understand, and remediate. This requires actual work — intellectual and physical — rather than the passive consumption of gear reviews and the performance of purchasing decisions.
The parrot behavior isn't accidental. The industry needs listeners to believe that the next amplifier or cable will unlock musical truth, because that's where the margin is. Acknowledging that a $500 measurement mic and REW software might matter more than a $10,000 amplifier upgrade would destroy the business model. So the discourse stays focused on gear, and audiophiles repeat the mantras: "It's all about the music." "Trust your ears." "Every component matters." Meanwhile, room modes at 40Hz are swamping any difference between competent amplifiers, and nobody's measuring.
What I've achieved is breaking free from assumptions that mistake consumer identity performance for actual epistemic or aesthetic seriousness.
I also found your following later post to be spot on:
I genuinely feel that how we approach the interpretation of experience -- including the acoustics involved (as @mahgister speaks to so well) -- is the real heart of many audiophile discussions which go wrong because of gear, money, prestige, and placebo effects.
As I would hope we all do, I love music.
I enjoy music from my several Amazon Echos, from my Audio Pro A10 (WiiM edition) WiFi speakers (that are “Roon Ready”), my 7.2 and 7.2.4 surround rooms and of course, my 2-Channel based, SoundLab room. But I also enjoy my son's Klipsch Heritage based system.
Disregarding the differences in hardware, watching the movie screen and listening, is obviously different than the 2-Channel room, but quite rewarding. And background music from the Wi-Fi speakers is equally enjoyable.
But for each, as you would imagine, my concentration differs. On a continuum (from highly resolved to less), I move from eyes closed and highly focused, to barely recognizing that music is playing; nevertheless, I continually crave being surrounded by music.
I sorta' find the same thing when I'm focused on reading or writing on the laptop while in my 2-Channel sweet spot. I become distracted and find myself switching my attention from one to the other.
It's difficult to focus on two things at once. Another example is driving and talking on the phone. Many believe we humans can multi-task, but we're conflating doing two things simultaneously well, with simply doing two things with one &/or the other getting (seesaw) concentration and attention.
Finally segueing to audio “eureka” moments:
When just entering double digits in age, I found myself wanting to enhance the sound and the detail of the music coming from my AM shortwave radio. From there, I acquired raw drivers. And not having a clue what I was doing, I played around with putting the speakers in various containers to assess the results. So, I was obviously bitten by the audio bug early on.
In the early 70’s when shopping for my first high end system, I happened across JansZen electrostatic speakers. Whoa eureka, I found what I was seeking even before I knew what I was seeking -- a transparent, lighting fast, highly resolved midrange & treble!! It was a wonderful eureka moment!
But those 1970 electrostats (ESL’s) when driven hard, sparked, had little mid-to lower bass and as a rock fan, they were not my cup of tea; when loud was good and louder was better.
But I never forgot that transparent ESL sound and decades later, when I connected JansZen’s Dr. Roger West, with his company’s full-range SoundLab speakers, that’s where I headed and stayed.
Previously, though I had Ess Heil AMT3 (Rockmonitors), Apogee Stages and Martin Logan hybrids – fast, transparent and of course panels (even the Air Motion Transformers (AMT’s) were open & panel-like, if you will).
In my sojourn, I have recognized that once the upper mid-fi-end is breached, I’m quite satisfied with any and all results. Mainly at that level, it becomes different tastes and preferences (a good give & take). Stopping there, would have been as fine as it is to listen to my son’s system vs mine, or one of my surround sound systems.
But the finesse, the stem-to-stern excellent frequency response and the your-are-there presentation of my EMM Labs DV2>Pass Labs X600.8>SoundLab rig is a joy.
However again, to fully enjoy the 2-channel rig, I must be completely engaged. That is, just letting the music flow along with a critical focus on the realistic details each musical instrument is presenting (with voice obviously being an instrument too).
Could I do without what the 2-channel room and live with one of my surround rooms, or my son’s rig…yup!
I suppose what I’m trying to say is that as audiophiles, I believe we tend to focus on subtle differences, considering them oftentimes to be greater than they actually are. It’s been liberating for me to recognize that fact. But in recent years, it hasn’t kept me from moving from Lampizator, to dCS to Emm Labs (DAC's) and most recently, to Pass Labs amps.
Each was a move more to my liking. And while each was different, I could have easily been exceeding satisfied with each. I think it’s also important to recognize that fact. Because while doing A/B’ing we readily recognize the differences. But when done, those differences tend to lessen and evaporate and we become satisfied with the highly resolved level we’re at, until and if, the: “let’s change bug bites”. With lots of things, the fun is more in the chase than in the catch...as in: what else can we hunt for and catch? Could that be in our human DNA heritage? I do believe that we're hardwired that way.

