I kind of wish the offending post from @faustuss had been left up because I never got to see it. Not because I’m in favor of online incivility – to the contrary, I feel it’s a gigantic problem—but because I’m wondering if what @faustus had to say was a measure of his exasperation with the OP bringing up the age-old topic of music vs. gear in the first place. A few of the responses that are on the thread are, I think, wry, winking acknowledgements of this.
"It’s all about the music" is one of the great pieties of the audiophile endeavor and I think we should all own up to what @larsman noted – that a love of music and a love of audio gear are two separate pursuits. "It’s all about the music" is a great example of "virtue signaling" in our hobby, and it can get tiresome.
I attend a lot of audio shows and the choices of music and the response of attendees to those choices can be telling, especially the response to music requested by others in an exhibitor’s room. The best example is classical music. I have a couple of relatively brief selections that I find helpful in getting a handle on an unfamiliar component, pieces by Shostakovich and Brahms. When the music ends, I turn around and it’s usually just me and the guy with the iPad.
There are exceptions, of course. Sometimes, people will ask about the music I’ve requested or take a screenshot of the album cover. Some exhibitors will cycle through an interesting and lengthy playlist and if people leave, so be it. I do think that, when they’re on their own, people are more interested in exploring what Leonard Bernstein called "The Infinite Variety of Music" (the title of a 1966 book by the conductor) but in a communal audiophile setting, musical content often seems to take a back seat; it’s Dire Straits, Diana Krall, and "Fanfare for the Common Man" that puts audiophile behinds in the seats.
I’d also respectfully ask that you not talk so darned much when the music’s playing, whether that music is Nielsen or Nirvana.
Someone want to paraphrase what @faustuss had to say? A redacted version is fine!

