Trying to categorize things and put people in boxes, with some kind of implication that being one is in some way better than the other, is at least to me tiring.
Being in it "only for the music" is in some way supposed to better than being passionate about reading, learning about and buying and selling equipment? Why?
As someone else said in this thread, why can’t it be both?
And if we look at the dictionary definition of an audiophile:
"a person who is enthusiastic about high-fidelity sound reproduction"
So, it’s NOT simply, or perhaps not at all if stripped down to its definition, about being a "music lover."
It’s per the dictionary definition someone who cares about how music is recorded and replayed, with the process from capture to replay, including all the equipment in-between being the "core" aspects of being an audiophile.
I, for one, loves music but I also love learning about equipment and their performance, difference, recording methods, processes, and not least negotiating deals for new, for me, equipment.
Does this make me less of a "music lover"? No, but it sure makes me an audiophile as well.