I've heard both in a friend's system when he tried them out. For perspective, I have always been a huge fan of REL, and mainly thought ML subs were just decent at best.
In this case I think the Abyss line is a big step up compared to most other ML subs I've heard. And the REL Classic 98 feels very different than the REL sound I am used to. Instead of that ultra tight, tuneful presentation, it seems like REL tried to emulate more of a home theater sound this time. So more rumble and thump but less natural tone, and not as easy to integrate smoothly with the speakers where the sub doesn't call attention to itself.
In my opinion you made the right choice here. I can't help with any DSP or integration tricks though, sorry.

