@abnerjack you spoke with FedEx employees in the US?
Last year I sent a package to India. It was 2 DVDs and a laptop. The laptop 15 years old, I sent it for the hard drive.
I declared the value, paid all the fees but in India it was not released by the customs unless the recipient paid another $200. They had no explanation. It was ransom. I have many stories like that shipping to all over the World regularly.
In most developing countries that's how the government works. There is no taxpayer BS. There is no representation. Every agency may very well be a criminal enterprise. But people don't call it that, they just call it business as usual.
Now Americans get to experience this first hand, Customs are encouraged to make life difficult for buying stuff from abroad.

