Phono Stage with XLR outs

+1 used PS Stellar phono likely best option

Maybe a used Parasound JC3.

Not sure for Darlington Labs “Balanced output capability (with user-supplied custom connecting cable)” for phono here

You got 3 good choices, all of which have balanced outputs: Ayre, PS Audio Stellar (if actually balanced), and BAT. There is also the Atmasphere MP1 or MP3, if you prefer tubes. There may be other balanced tube phono stages I don't know about. While the Cardas adapters are very good, you are better off not having to use an adapter when the signal is so low in voltage.

Parasound Zphono XRM Phono Preamplifier - an versatile MM/MC phono stage with RCA and XLR outputs:

https://parasound.com/products/zc-zphonoxrm?

I have both the RCAs and XLRs hooked up to different amps simultaneously and it works great. Only 8.5" wide, very flexible and affordable ($299) option. Sounds great with my Dual/Ortofon MM turntable, but also has variable MC option.

@lewm the adapters are for my amp as it only accepts XLR. So it’s a line level signal. The Cardas adapters I have are excellent quality although I am sure not using adapters would definitely be a better option. 
I am really leaning towards tubes. Here is why -

1. The Clearaudio Concept, according to my research, is a very accurate and may be even slightly lean sounding table. I don’t know how true all this is as I don’t have it in my possession yet

2. The cartridge, Hana ML, is open and detailed sounding. It isn’t analytical per say but it doesn’t mask anything either. 
3. Boulder 866 is a pretty honest sounding amp. And my Wilson Sabrina speakers will reproduce whatever they see coming down from the source.
 

I need to stay as neutral as possible but at the same time try to preserve musicality. I’m thinking a tubed phono stage, one that’s still true to the source but has a hint of that tube magic, may be what the doctor ordered. 
I am not looking to spend a lot but at the same time I’m trying not to bottleneck the setup too much

Tube phono stages that I found so far with XLR outs are ProJect tube box DS3 B and Black Ice Audio Fusion 9 Mk3. In my price range brand new. I’m not exactly a ProJect fan boy. And I never heard Black Ice Fusion 9. 
Solid State fallback options Parasound, PS Audio, Chord Huei (not a fan of Chord after owning two of their DACs). Ayre will be impossible to find used. I can find a used McIntosh MP100 though. 
So lots to think about. Hopefully I get the table and cartridge by Saturday and try it with the kc vibe to get a baseline.