My experience is different but I think I might go about it differently than most. Up at the crossover point I am just listening and I do not want to hear it. The subwoofers should just disappear(remember I use a crossover point of 125 Hz). It has to sound like I am listening to one speaker. As I evaluate lower down I go from listening to feeling. Do I feel that kick drum the way I do at the club. Are those low synthesizer notes shaking me the way they should. Does the room move under low organ pedal. Hearing is one thing feeling is another. Part of the thrill of live music are the visceral sensations you get.
These sensations are missing or greatly attenuated in most home systems.
@mijostyn You mentioned that your room has not standing waves which is a bit of an achievement so naturally you would not set up your system the same way.
Crossing over the woofers at 125Hz requires that you do what you are doing. Try crossing over so that there's no output at 80Hz and see how much correction you need.
I get similar impact on my speakers at home, which are flat to 20Hz. The problem I run into is a standing wave that causes a loss of bass on certain notes at the listening chair- they are certainly there in other places in the room! That's why I got a pair of the Swarm subs, just to break up the standing waves. The speakers can shake the organs in your chest and the cuffs of your pants and they don't sound boomy.

