If your codicil is to be taken seriously, you should find the best custom HT shop in your town and you can act as the advisor. They will have the skills and experience to hide and integrate the equipment well beyond the abilities of most serious audiophiles.
I recently played that role when my kids wanted to set up a big system or two. My son-in-law wanted SOTA stuff and my daughter wanted nothing visible but the screen. We got estimates from 3-4 shops, made suggestions, got revised plans, picked a contractor, revised again and let them do it. They are still tweaking but, believe me, it was not so much the choice of components but the integration, installation and camouphlage did the job.
I recently played that role when my kids wanted to set up a big system or two. My son-in-law wanted SOTA stuff and my daughter wanted nothing visible but the screen. We got estimates from 3-4 shops, made suggestions, got revised plans, picked a contractor, revised again and let them do it. They are still tweaking but, believe me, it was not so much the choice of components but the integration, installation and camouphlage did the job.