best wife friendly monitor?

I would look into Sonus Faber (many models depending on your budget). To my eye they are some of the most attractive looking monitors made, and are of course world class speakers. Their use of Walnut in many of their models may also allow them to fit into your antiques nicely.

Tyler Acoustics has like 25 different types of wood to choose from. Let the wife pick the wood as this could do your audio hobbie some good! Happy Holidays

You never mentioned how much you're wanting or willing to spend.

The Caravelles are fantastic and go for around $5000.00. They have the piano gloss black finish that should wow your wife.

On the cheaper note, I have the old B&W Silver Signatures which were $8000.00 new that I would love to replace, but honestly haven't found anything that has made me want to take the hit selling them. There are three pair on Audiogon right now for around $3000.00-$4000.00. They are the granddaddy to the 805's. I've heard that neither the Nautilus nor the Signature 805's can touch them. They go down to around 35Hz and they do rock! They're also very nice looking.

The Reference 3A DiCapo's are really nice too, and only $2500.00. The one's with the piano gloss black finish at $2750.00 should wow your wife, the same as the Caravelle's.

If I had that many CDs I'd be worrying more about what the speakers sounded like and think of another stragegy for the marital bliss. :). I am not sure if you think monitors sound better or if you think they have a better WAF. To me, a floor stander is much better to look at (of course my wife might not agree). In my mind the sonus fabers, as pointed out by jb3, are stunning.

Another vote for the Caravelle monitors.