I agree with you. After decades of wandering around through the solution space... optimizing for "what sounded good" to "what made a kick drum have the highest impact," to the "maximum amount of detail". I realized optimizing one thing would sub optimize other instruments or types of music. So I went looking for and empirical ruler... live music. I had season tickets to the symphony for a decade (and bought many CDs of which I was in the concert hall when recorded), attended many acoustic jazz and rock concerts. I found the ruler. It had a profound effect on what I went looking for.
It also had a profound effect on my system, First the closer I got the more all music was optimized simultaneously and more importantly the emotional connection became more direct and intense with each step.
What happened to my system was the hyperdetail moved into the background... the dryness went away. The gestalt became correct. The relationship between the details, warmth, and scale all fell into place. I increasingly no longer was drawn to listen to the system... but the music.
It is easy to be drawn to analytically and sonically spectacular presentations... like Bermeister, Wilson, Roland. Powerful, detailed with huge amounts of space introduced into the soundstage. Images thusly enlarged so one may easily scrutinize the edges and transitions. But that is not real. They sound amazing... one is drawn to listen to the system and not the music.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with sonically spectacular sound systems unless you got there by accident. It is easy to get there by accident.... by having your analytical side pulling you towards ever increasingly detailed sound... ever larger sound fields. Somewhere along the way you loose track of what it was that you were after. I think the epiphany came to me when I noticed I would get bored after listening to my incredible system (I called it my Reference System... because every nuance of the recording process and venue jumped out at you) after 45 minutes and I would go do something else. I spent something like 35 years working on and $80K developing something that would only hold my attention for 45 minutes! My TV only cost $1k and it can hold my attention for much longer. So I knew something was very wrong. I went to figure it out.
For me, my current system reproduces the gestalt and the details, but in proportion to how it sounds live. The emotional connection. I have an incredibly hard time listening to my system... the music is so distracting that I get sucked into it. After three hours of listening I still have to drag myself away it is so enthralling. So my minds eye is pulled away from the weight of the kick drum and pulled toward the emotional connection it evokes in my subconscious.
But I enjoy listening to sonic spectacular sound systems for an hour now and again.
So, yeah... we agree. Although I don't think it is laziness on the part of many folks, some may not have figured it out yet, or simply don't want that... their analytical side needs the detailed instrument with the highest sensitivity. It is a hobby and whatever makes you happy is the point.

