Not in your situation, but I do have hearing loss in the high frequency range, which has been confirmed by my ENT. I am also sensitive to loud music. I am 73 and can listen comfortably at 55-60 dbs, with brief peaks up to 65. At these low levels music did not come alive. Also had occasional ringing and clicking sounds in my ears. I took the following steps:
1. After much research purchased the JBL 4349 horn loudspeaker. Now I can listen at low levels and the music sounds full bodied. Note the JBL woofer is of the dynamic type and would not come alive at my low listening levels. I purchased 2 SVS subwoofers and set them to give me some of the bass that the JBL could not at my listening levels. Also purchased a new preamp the Conrad Johnson Et-7 S2 which lowered the noise floor. I also tried an equalizer which did not help me.
2. The final step was to try to alleviate the ringing and clicking. I switched from my electric toothbrush to manual brushing and within a week the clicking and ringing dissipated. I am sure my electric toothbrush was doing an excellent job, but perhaps the vibrations so close to my ears was an irritant to me. Wishing everybody happy listening and to the younger crowd, take care of your ears.

