You need to create the 'canvas' for the image to appear.The back wall behind the speakers should be flat black and as dark as possible. NO lights on the center back wall. My favorite is a matte dark black fabric that also aids in reducing reflections off the sheetrock.
You want to create the illusion that there is NO back wall. Just a deep, dark abyss from which the instruments will magically appear.
I completely ignored your post when I read that initial comment, because you mentioned about "fabric", "dark abyss", etc. But....
FYI... it's not just color that makes the magic happen.The lighting level, direction and the color temperature(Kelvin) of the bulbs are also extremely important. In fact, lighting is the probably the most over looked design flaw in most homes and can take you home to a new level when done properly.
...this is where you nailed it. It's all about lighting/ambience! I am 100% with you on this. Flat lighting just kills the "audio experience". The "somber" the lighting is, your eyes will focus less and your ears will focus more and that is how our senses compensate.

