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RE: the question: ":Why do forum interactions become contentious". . .

I've just had a very unexpected and very unpleasant PM from a forum participant. 

He'd been suggesting I buy a certain component  and I told him politely that I didn't visualize that particular purchase fitting in with my long-range plans.  

His response was to accuse me of wasting everyone's time and to call me an "effing idiot" (except he spelled "effing" correctly). 

The great majority of interactions I've had here have been very enjoyable and recent input from
more experienced forum members has helped greatly in clarifying my plan for the next upgrade cycle. 

The thread on lesser-know Jazz has been great-- lots of participation and lots of terrific suggestions. 

Nevertheless, I've decided to take a break. 

Best regards,

Stuartk



stuartk
nnicola
31 posts
 
For what it’s worth, I participate and contribute to more than a few audio forums. The only forum that tolerates contentious and confrontational exchanges with regularity is this one. 
From what I have observed, confrontational  exchanges tend to be a feature, not an aberration, on this site. That is unfortunate, because I enjoy and appreciate much of the non-confrontational input I’ve received here.

Personally, I believe that the moderators and sponsors of this site intentionally, if passively, promote no-holds-barred discussion to differentiate this forum from others. 

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calvinandhobbes
327 posts
 
Lack of self-confidence
-or-
the inability of some people to see that not everyone thinks, has the same perceptions, or has the same values as they do

This is supposedly a fun activity that we are discussing. And some people are insecure enough to want to impose RULES on how others SHOULD enjoy audio equipment?
calvinandhobbes
327 posts
 
@tomrk 100%. Some people don't have anything better to do in real life than to spend their time attacking other on online forums.
noske
783 posts
 
I think its perfectly fine word an opinion to be challenged.  That's robust discussion and I'd encourage it.

But if its insulting words?  That's very childish, and there's a strong argument for that to be allowed exactly so that person may be challenged in a civilised manner.
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