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Where has the respect gone?

I have a middle of the road audio system. I built my own speakers with a Seas Odim kit, a Rogue 99 mag., a Esoteric DV-50, built my own 200 watt power amp, BPT 3.5 Signature Plus, upgraded Sansui TU-717, Revelation Audio Labs Testament speaker wire, HMS rca's and power cords and Virtual Dynamics Testament power cord and Soundstrings rca's too! I have many other pieces I am working on and trying to sell but I have started to notice a trend in some Audiogon members. It is kinda getting like other internet selling places, where there is no respect for each other. I am like everyone else and that I want the best deal but I try to be respectful to the seller or buyer. I have probably not been that to all and for that I am sorry and I ask your forgiveness. It seems like lately things are starting to change and I do not believe it is necessary to change. I have not been a member from the first but it makes no difference if I was the first member or the last member, just sign in we need to have respect for each other. I hate to see Audiogon turn into what some of the others are in lying and cheating for a dollar or just being rude. Let us all remember to respect the other person and let this stay a fun job, hobby or whatever it my be to you! Remember it starts with us all!
ezekiel
budrew
467 posts
 
It's very easy for people to hide behind the anonymity of the Internet when posting to these forums. Some people may just get more argumentative than they normally would in person. And I agree that as the size of the audience grows the more impersonal it becomes. But it also only takes a few scoundrels who regularly post rude and negative posts to give the impression of a general lack of respect.
gunbei
2,327 posts
 
In life and on Audiogon I have the personality flaw of being a mirror. I greet a smile with kindness and reward rudeness with swinging swords and a shower of arrows. I'd been on the offensive a few times lately and didn't like that I resorted to that. I'm sorry everyone!

Group hug everyone...

NOW GO AND EAT YER DAMN WHEATIES!

:•)
avguygeorge
2,300 posts
 
Thankfull that I seem to not read these heated posts; I just think the place has gotten better over the 5+ years I've been here. ---Any of the old-timers here might remember the guy who wanted to take you on if you dissagreed with him.---(Literally) Then the rest would fight it out to agree with him/ or not.Oh' bring back the old-days! /(not). Expecting resepct is like expecting perfection.
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sbank
3,378 posts
 
For the most part, I agree that the majority of folks who post and trade here are reasonable, and on the "up and up". A few bad apples do spoil the whole bunch, so we can't stand for it. Shower them w/kindness, call them on it when they abuse the 'Gon, and as a last resort push the management to remove them when nothing else works.
If we hold ourselves to treat each other as friends, everything will solve itself.
We just need to all reminder each other that it's okay and healthy to disagree on issues, but we can do that without personal attacks. Cheers,
Spencer
listener57
730 posts
 
Ezekial, Thank you for initiating a discussion which has evoked so many valuable responses. I think this shows there are still many who value Audiogon as a refuge from the outside world, which can be even more traumatic.
The most important thing is for the congenial majority not to remain silent in the face of unfair, or downright obnoxious, postings. Simply posting something appropriate, and in a civil manner, acts as a counterbalance. Many of us have adopted this technique instinctively whenever harassment rears its ugly head. That's why when reading through discussion threads one can see comments on both sides on most issues.
By reviewing sales feedback, and any past discussion postings, it is possible to gain some insight into the person on the other end of an Audiogon transaction. Providing a place for safer buying and selling, at fair prices, is still the most unique Audiogon function, for many of us. If someone seems to be out of line then no one has to engage in transactions with such an individual.
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