I hear you on trying to figure out what works. I am wiring them to the hot wire of the incoming 20A line with the two separate load side wires going one to each half of a duplex, that I will separate by cutting the tab between the two hot sides. The neutral and ground should be fine as-is since this is basically the same as wiring a switch.
If I decide to do something for the remainder of my gear, I will likely try the SDFB, and especially if I end up going the Grimm MU2 route since that will take the place of three different components for me and only require one SDFB. However, I am struggling to get around Grimm’s omission of a remote volume control and the inability of at least one reviewer to read the numerical volume level from their listening chair. I am far from lazy but not making it easy to change volume and read it while seated seems a huge oversight on an $18K component that is expected to serve as a preamp, unless there is an easy app intended for that purpose. I need to dig deeper.

