@tylermunns Some people have more sensitive "antennas" than others. While some music lovers are ecstatic with a course representation of a musical event, others demand nuance and full adherence to the artists' intent.
For myself, "musical wallpaper" is good enough when conversations around the fire pit are more important than the music. Sometimes, I just don't want to be alone and queue up "old friends" just to keep me company. Other times, music is my "comfort animal" bringing familiar themes to unfamiliar circumstances. Then there are those moments when the rhythm and cadence of the music is perfectly synchronized with the activity (and, mood) in which I am engaged. And, yes, there are those times when I strap myself to my listening chair and allow the beauty, power, and intimacy of music (literally) take center stage. In all the cases above, the music is never a "distraction', but ranges from an enhancement to augment the enjoyment of a pleasurable activity, a supplement to make "swallowing" a dreaded task more tolerable, to actually being "the thing".
I hope you and Matt are still friends. Let me guess; he got off the fishing boat and opened a string of Captain D restaurants in your area?
By the way, I have to confess that my "musical wallpaper" system is made up of "tweaked" rock speakers, outdoor sub, modified source components and amplifiers. Even at listening levels just above the threshold of hearing, it is musically satisfying. Wonderful sounds, even in the background, make me smile.