It seems to me that a bigger, thicker, heavier cone would have reduced "compliance," if that is the right term, and therefore require a greater degree of damping than a smaller, lighter cone. Why would bass damping be independent of this?
Good point. It is actually quite complicated because designers can also make choices about voice coil diameter, magnet size, VC length and mag gap length etc - to compensate for added cone weight.
However, simply put - the big advantage that a large woofer has over a small one is simply that it moves much less for a given output. Smaller long throw cones with long coil in short mag gap (large Xmax) tend to be less well controlled than larger short throw cones (short coil large mag gap). Another issue is heat - small long voice coils have more trouble getting rid of heat and the amp loses control (as impedance rises). Wiring many small woofers together is also going to dilute the "control" that the amplifier exerts over each woofer.