why do so many discussions turn contentious?


just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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I think the circumstance is endemic to people, as opposed to posters within this forum. Perhaps people interested in audio serves as a filter that attracts a certain level of personal evolution and is therefore skewed more toward the negative then another context, but I doubt it.People who are reactive, emotionally immature, spiteful, petty, and all sorts of others values and behaviors that we certainly don’t treasure manifest this level of development in their posts.Since I think that these are the root of what I consider to be misbehavior here, I don’t think they will change simply by giving feedback or pointing things like this out to the problem people. The stuff is rooted in personality and any sort of learning curve or lack of it as folks go through their lives. Therefore, I believe that strong moderating and editing is the only solution, but of course, like all of you, I have no control over that, and I’m subject to however the people that run this want to do things.All In all, I think it’s important to starve attention from attention seekers and not engage with those who want to create toxic engagement. So what I do is just read the beginning of a post and if it’s a rant or something rude, I stop reading. Responding to these folks just feeds them, in my opinion.
Great point. Some are here to be the most popular, contentious, and provocative just because they can. How can one deal with that?
Exactly @frogman.  There's been a number of posts in this thread alone thrown in that are clearly bait to get confrontational.  I refuse to take the bait.  I won't provide the fuel.