I too am a custom furniture builder. If the right adhesive and finish are used, there should be no splitting. Finishes from 40 years ago are not as good as today's finishes. There should be absolutely no need to wipe it down with anything other than a dry cloth.
The simply fact is, if the lemon oil is penetrating the wood itself, the finish is not doing it's job.
The simply fact is, if the lemon oil is penetrating the wood itself, the finish is not doing it's job.