A music lover uses audio equipment to listen to his recordings. An audiophile uses recordings to listen to his audio equipment!
This is a quote from Allan Parsons, and he was wrong when he originally said it, and the quote is still wrong now.
First of all, there is a "no true Scotsman" fallacy in there. As well as a false dichotomy.
Of course, there are a small subset of audiophiles who do care more about the sound of the equipment, than the music. But why should anyone care if that is how they get their enjoyment from their systems?
But the vast majority of audiophiles that are ’music first’ audiophiles.
The vast majority of my listening, I couldn’t care less about the gear. I just listen to the music.
But this doesn’t mean, there are other times, for a couple hours every couple of weeks, that I can’t have loads of fun, just paying attention to the gear, playing ’approved’ audiophile recordings, tweaking my system, etc. And not paying to much attention to the music itself.
So, by the above (bogus) definition of audiophile and music lover, I guess I switch between the 2 on a regular basis. But I always consider myself an audiophile AND a music lover.