why don't they get it?

Generalizing here - Do you get her purses, shoes, and little ceramic nicknacks? Viva la difference. Mutual respect allows humorous tolerance of the quirks of others and celebration of what makes them happy. Hopefully this goes both ways. But I do understand your frustration - it would be nice to share more of the delight I feel with small audio treasures with my lovely lady. I feel agon is very much enhanced by the women who do get it.

My three daughters and wife are all very much into music. They in fact keep up with new artists and explore new music better than I do. They are passionate about thier playlists. So in many ways they are better at what we always say here - "That it is not about the equipment, it is about the music". They just do not see equipment as we do with many wonderful exceptions of women on this site and elsewhere. They appreciate the elegance of design (ease of use)convience and cost of thier Ipods and my wife always uses WAV or lossless. For them there are at least four main drawbacks to the killer amp: cost, ugliness (industrial look), the space it takes, and 90lbs of weight. The esthetics of equipment may eventually cater more to the 50% who do most of the decorating around the home. When I brought my VonSchweikert VR4Sr's home, becuase they look like fine furniture with some interesting lines they were embraced. Gallo Reference and MBL's are out and WP7's in gray paint "looked like trash cans" in her opinion. Even the names are a turn off: VRSR4, WP7. We need names for speakers such as "Song Bird" in colors and patterns the dont make our living rooms look like shop from high school.