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why do so many discussions turn contentious?

just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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@tsushima1   +2 on the observation.  The board's demeanor is starting to trend friendly ;-)
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I can't believe I'm reading this thread and watching it devolve into the  very conversation, full of contentiousness, that it was created to highlight -,and perhaps draw inspiration to remedy. As long as we continually search for someone to blame we will never do better.  I think we will only improve if we all endeavor to do better.  I know I am.
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+1 @jw94ts   depressing
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@jw

.perhaps I am optimistic in thinking we have achieved a small step in that direction?

I’m going to be optimistic myself. Thanks for starting the thread and raising the self-awareness.
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There are many really great threads going on right now that it does give me hope.  The discussion on SUTs with @jcarr participating and even the interestingly helpful thread that's been evolving on Tektons (as the discussion has focused on speaker loads and the interaction with amps).  These discussions have been nearly devoid of animosity over the past couple of days and I'm hopeful that perhaps we are on a better trajectory of mutual comradery and friendliness.  Perhaps we are emerging from the Dark Ages?....which did take centuries ;-)
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@johnto

we would only have one company making amps, speakers and other audio products.

Sadly this is probably the "mission" of some forum members that only recommend the same company over and over for amps, speakers, and cables/tweaks - for all users and in all situations. With healthy threads like this one I sense we may be making incremental positive changes.
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Honestly @arcticdeth  are you suggesting that we embrace a platform of obnoxious, mean-spirited, sarcastically hateful banter and a thick skin is the premise of being able to thrive here?  Wow...what ever happened to a friendly exchange of ideas, experiences, and learning? If that's the framework for this place then I'm out.
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@danager  I was referring to @tsushima1 's latest post.
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Exactly @frogman.  There's been a number of posts in this thread alone thrown in that are clearly bait to get confrontational.  I refuse to take the bait.  I won't provide the fuel. 
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