We live in a contentious and polarized world. Moderation is rare. And there is a good deal of ego channeled through audio choices. I would say that “audiophile” differences in perception and reaction are to some extent informed by the social and political world around us as well as our own learned modes of perception.
Few seem to have a sense of the complexity of neurological processes, learning curve, and experiences that underpin perception. While there may be an audio event that one person perceives, another will have different neurological experience and perception. Think of the variety of perception and activity involved in playing a violin or hitting a baseball. While there might be one audio event, it will be perceived differently by virtually every listener. My wife, who is a music lover of great experience but not an audiophile, hears aspects of recordings that I don’t notice until she points them out to me. And then I learn something new about perception and try to add it to my perception and learning as makes sense.
Let us enjoy the music as fully as we can.