" What is the solution to this? "
In no particular order:
This first: Know thyself. In other words, learn what it is that YOU want IN VERY SPECIFIC TERMS, so that you will have an idea of what to look for, and so you will recognize something promising when you see it.
Broaden your horizons, increase your search radius. Go to audio shows. Join a local audio club. Seek out and listen to very different approaches from what you have heard thus far. .
I still think DIY is your best bet. Read some books so that you won’t waste time re-inventing the wheel. Toole’s Sound Reproduction will help you figure out where the goal posts are FOR YOU, and Dickason’s Loudspeaker Design Cookbook will help you get there.
Find somebody out there that you agree with and try what they are doing.
For an example of what someone does when nothing out there sounds right to them, look up Romy the Cat, and learn from him. Romy has a discussion forum.