Dear Chayro: I wrote you a short note on another thread this AM but I am very sorry for your loss and, through this website, you have a friend in me. Stay strong and concentrate on all the good times.
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Chayro, sorry to hear of you wife's passing. My parents and my sister recently passed and I understand what Schubert says about there being no ready made template to follow helping us deal with the reality of life after those close to us die. Cherish your memories of her and I wish you strength and resilience in the days ahead.
I expressed my condolences in another thread as well, but I wanted to say once again that, like most people of my age, I have experienced the loss of loved ones, and my heart is with you. I hope you have the love and support of those who are close to you, and that you are able to feel the support coming to you from your Audiogon Family.
Sorry for your loss pal, It's hard to loose, but stay strong and don't stay alone. Internet is OK -- it's plenty enough of us here in the forums, but not enough to get social. Get together with live friends and/or relatives if you have chance.
Do not consume heavy and greasy meals for the next several days. Lots of fresh produce, dairy, white meat, fish will keep your mood stable.
I can feel your pain as I know what you are going through. It is not going to be easy but remain strong, positive and take good care of yourself.
You have to be able to move on from this becuase no matter how hard you make this to be, she won't be coming back. I am sure she will be happy to know that you are still enjoying a hobby that you both pursued together.
God be with you.
You and your family have my sincere sympathy and I know this is a devastating event in your life. You'll always have the love and happy memories of all the things you and your wife enjoyed and shared together. I've been married for 27 years and I don't take any of it for granted. Chayro I know that you will miss her deeply but I'm sure she'd want you to be happy and continue to enjoy the rest of your precious life.
I hope the transmitted support from so many of us here on Audiogon can be felt as a friend's arm around your shoulders in this time of sorrow.
From the touching description you gave of such a wonderful wife, as you find your way forward let there be a place in life for the music both of you loved.
May God be with you in this time of sorrow. Your post made me think of my wife and how understanding she has been through the years.
I know you will miss her, but just know that your wife would want you to continue to enjoy what you are pasionate about. Here's hoping you find some solace in your music in the short term.
Charyo ... I lost my wife 11 years ago to ovarian cancer. We were married for almost 20 years. I mention this only to let you know that I get on a personal level what you are going through.
I wish there were smart words to say at a time like this but there are none. Just know that you have my deepest sympathies and are in my prayers for comfort.
My wife had breast cancer while pregnant with our son over sixteen years ago. We also had a 2 year old at the time. I call that our year of hell plus trying to hold onto a high pressure job in IT. My wife is now a 16 year survivor. I'm so sorry for your loss. Reading this post is a reminder for myself and others to appreciate family and life. I lost my dad to dementia a few years back. Never easy loosing people you love. Hold onto the joy of music and revisit those LPs/CDs that you both enjoyed. Try to focus on those good memories, vacations... special moments. Take care!!!
My deepest sympathy for your loss. I had one of my favorite Audio memories stem from devastating circumstances. My parents were both killed in an infamous hotel fire in Puerto Rico in '86. After they were buried I remained in PR to finalize their affairs. During some down time, dazed and lost I decided to check out a local audio salon, just to kill some time. Once I mentioned my parents and the fire the staff couldn't have been more supportive. They knew I wasn't there to buy but I spent the entire afternoon listening to tunes in their high-end room, they were great!!
sorry to read about your loss, Chayro. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you. All the best in dealing with this loss.
You were a very lucky fellow i have to say if she did not criticize you for indulging in audio - rare are such wives. it could have been a lot worse with her nagging you about every $ you spent on audio.
Think of the good times you spent with her - it will probably lighten your load & maybe even make you smile........
Life is such a cruel trickster~the things we love most are sometimes the most ephemeral. Although in some ways this is very personal for you, many others are there for you if and when you need them. Don't be reluctant to ask- even if it means just to share a meal, a movie or a walk. My thoughts are with you.