It’s an original reproduction but I do have other honest to goodness hand made in a darkroom prints hanging up as well throughout my home. No one famous. Two of them are in my system photo. Just below and slightly left of Moonrise is a photo of a row of knitting machines in a sweater factory, early morning, with the sun streaming in. That photo was taken in the 70’s. Another is right above my turntable- a half sunk rowboat - that’s from the 80’s
I am a huge fan of B&W photography. Moonrise is an amazing image
I’m just more foolish. I’ve also loaned out photo equipment with similar effect.
I have some gear that would be worthy of pro use. I loaned pro flash gear to a person who was trying to break into the wedding photography business. Person had that piece for a long time- probably a few years and it saw heavy use. After a while it started not working quite right. How did I find out? “Hey- yeah, well the piece you loaned me started acting up- I hope you don’t mind but since it wasn’t working right anymore I threw it out”
the only time I ever borrowed a camera- it was from a relative- it did break while I had it. I had it repaired, returned the camera, and never mentioned to my relative that it broke.
thank you for the kind words- it means a great deal to me-
my 2021 resolution list-
1) stop lending photo gear (and I still am missing one lens- guy moved very far away)
2) stop lending music (never comes back)
3) stop lending gear (see original post)
4) when a person tells you they are crazy, believe them
5) live, laugh, love, listen to music
Have a happy new year tooblue
I've never loaned audio equipment to friends but I've loaned CDs and records that were never returned. I wish I had half of the amount of money I've loaned to people who never paid me back---I'd be pretty rich. My parents always told me never to loan people things unless you never want to see it again---they were right.
The thought that someone else will value things in the same fashion is a great setup for disappointment. Once I give it, it's gone, no longer mine. Shall I pretend that life is about protecting physical items that went another direction? No thank you! If they wish to destroy it, and the potential value it can bring to them, fine. Their problem. Obviously, all the intent in the world to make someone value things similarly doesn't work. So, why stress about it?
Reminds me of...
"To all the girls I’ve loved before
Who travelled in and out my door
To all the girls I once caressed
The winds of change are always blowing
I borrowed a pair of Boston Acoustics to an emotionally unstable cousin of mine. One day he garbage picks a receiver and hooks up my speakers, they don't work so he smashes them with a hammer and throws them away. I ask him, did you ever think it might have been the receiver that you pulled out of the garbage that was the problem?
Three months later on a camping trip I tear a hole in a $5 garage sale tent of his and he tells me that when we get home I am taking him shopping for a new tent.
tnic73: You need to stay away from that cousin!
The only things I have loaned out and not gotten back were some CD’s. I learned not to lend any more out and most people don’t ask.
I also try to deal with reputable people that do what they say and are honest. Life is too short to deal with the other kinds.
You seem like a generous caring person. However, your lending practices seem unwise. When you lend, relationships can easily suffer when you try to get your stuff back. Those folks who abused/dumped your lent stuff may now have guilt in their relationship with you and you may have resentment towards them. Instead of helping them, you may be enabling their bad behavior especially the non caring irresponsible people.
If you must lend, make it very clear up front on when you expect to get it returned, let them know that you don’t like lending because it can damage relationships, then get them to agree to “can I trust you to return it on time?” maybe sealed with a handshake while looking them eye to eye. Periodically tactfully reminding them of the due date may also be a good idea like 2 weeks before it’s due. Also, you can say “did you used it yet? I hope so because I was really trying to help you out” - increased gratitude can farther increase their motivation to return your stuff.
I cannot imagine throwing a borrowed turntable in the trash.
But then, I've never loaned (or borrowed) HiFi gear.
On the other hand, if you've never made expensive mistakes in this hobby, then probably you're either very young, very lucky, or you're not trying hard enough.
Some of my biggest mistakes involved buying mid-priced compromise gear. I haven't fallen for too many expensive snake oil gimmicks, though. I did once buy a $500 set of isolation footers for my speakers, which did nothing much but make them wobbly. That was easy enough to fix by sending them back.
What's the opposite of expensive mistakes? Moving your speakers (or listening chair) a few inches.
When I went into the service I loaned a complete system (receiver, TT, speakers and a few records) to a friend. It was the 70s, I was young and it was a 10 year old Radio Shack system, but top-of-line for them. I come back from overseas and he is married and at a BBQ at his place with many people he announces to everyone what a great wedding gift I had given them! I was essentially apoplectic.
That was the first and last time for that sheeit!
Stuff and money comes and goes, but what should be a higher priority is relationships.
Generosity is a great virtue, but it must be tempered with wisdom. For instance, if a guy keeps running out of money because he cannot control his spending, he cannot distinguish his needs from his wants, then any additional money won’t really help his problem. If it is a loan, you’ll only be adding to his burden which he cannot pay back.
*s* Observation & imho of all the above...
Don’t ’loan’ Anything out to Anyone with the expectation of return in the future.
If returned at all, if the item is anywhere close to the condition it left your hands, consider it an reason to consider oneself incredibly blessed beyond rational thought.
Here’s a concept one might consider:
Ask the ’lendee’ to provide an item of a relatively similar ’value’ to you (the ’lender’) to guarantee the treatment of your item.
If item returns trashed, feel free to sledgehammer the ’ransom’ in front of ’lendee’.
Yes, it is an extreme concept to consider. But recall the ’ye olde saw’ you’ve heard before:
"Neither a borrower nor a lender be."
The ’flip side’ of the laments expressed above?
"Hell is other humans." ;)
Hopefully Happy New Year, J
I loaned my CD of Pearl Jam “Ten” to my best friend the day after I bought it. After almost a year I asked for it back since I only played it once before he got it. I had to ask quite a few times for it and I finally got it back, scratched. My friend was angry for my asking for it back and didn’t talk to me for a long time. I guess he really thought it was his.
I borrowed the Ten Years After LP, "A Space In Time" from an acquaintance around 1977. Saw him at a get together in 2016.
Then we were all to meet for dinner in 2018 so I brought the LP with me and returned it. We all got a kick out of it. It was an early pressing and the sound quality of the LP was exquisite.
Better late than never.