Is there a therapist in the house?


I deeply regret something I never thought I would do.  I sold most of the records in my 500+ collection.  Every day for the past month I get a knot in my stomach when I think of what I did.  Many of the albums were 40+ years old and original pressings.  I took care of them and kept them clean.  Each time I played one the record playing event or experience seemed brand new to me.  Reading the liner notes never got old.  I remember buying a lot of the records and the joy I felt the first time the stylus hit the groove.  Then, I convinced myself that the records were just "things" and it was the music that was important.  I checked TIDAL and Spotify to confirm I could download the music.  With a pending move to another state and the thought that the records were just things, I sold the records.  Now, when I play a downloaded album or I hear a song from an album I used to have, I am heartbroken.  I feel like a part of my soul is gone and can not be replaced.  I've expressed this disaster to family and friends but the responses are usually one or two sentences which don't give me any comfort.  This is definitely one of the worst decisions I ever made.  Replacing them is thought but may not be possible.  Has anyone sold a record collection and felt remorseful?  If so what did you do?  I could really use some help with this situation.
rayd
You sold most of them but not all of them..
Sometimes you gotta just say "Well, that's what happened!". Now you need to focus on what motivated you to do this in the first place.
I am sure that we all have done similar things that we regret. I know I have done my share and doubt I am done yet. Move forward, replace the titles you miss the most and can still obtain. Save the money a therapist would charge and use it to buy records. In the end you had a "human moment" nobody died.
Are you a tourist or a traveler?  Somewhere in that question there's an audiophile analogy.

Treat your sold record collection as a death.  It's gone and can never come back.  Remember it fondly and even mourn it, but continue to live your life.
It is like to the pain of losing a long time companion. I share your sorrow. At some point I will have to downsize and that means my records will not make the transition with me. My only hope is that there will be someone around at that time who may value having them and get as much enjoyment from them as I have. So, perhaps a thought is that the person who bought them will either provide a good home for them or they will make their way to a good home.

@rayd As someone with 5000+ LPs who is not impartial to your pain, I read your eloquent post to my wife. She replied that if a girl had posted such profound remorse about selling off her shoe collection, we would all be puked out.

Perhaps this will help...

Losing or letting go of something tangible is indeed worthy of an emotional sense of loss, or at the very least a longing. Between my last residential move and today I lost roughly half of my LP collection due to carelessness, or worse, cataloging it and discarding albums I thought lesser of for one reason or another. I'm down to about 500-ish. 

That sense of loss, regret, that you're experiencing is a natural reaction because vinyl requires a human touch, with  attention paid to handling, care, and storage - forget mentioning the associated gear required for playback. It's PHYSICAL, involving touch, sight, and smell.

Think of TIDAL and/or digital streaming as a book of photographs. While you can't touch your music as tangibly as you once did, you can still enjoy it all the same. 
Back in the 80's, I sold my record collection (8 Peaches crates at the time) to a friend for next to nothing. I was moving to New York with two pairs of blue jeans and two suits to seek my business fame and fortune and frankly, needed the cash. Through the years and several moves later, I gradually assembled a 3000+/- cd collection as technology changed. About halfway through that journey, I was living in Memphis and was robbed of over 1000 cd's. I periodically ran across pieces of my stolen cd collection in used cd stores, pawn shops, and 2nd hand stores. So I had the pleasure of buying several of the rare items twice and eventually got the name of the guy pawning my stuff. Of course, the police had no interest in checking him out and like the insurance company, asked me if I had receipts to verify they were mine in the first place. (Lesson here- take pictures of EVERYTHING). Now that technology is forcing yet another format change, I have decided that I am going to stick with the cd format even though I do enjoy the fat sound of vinyl. Sorry for the rant, but I do appreciate your loss. I enjoy having a total package- artwork, lyrics, liner notes- that somehow lose their impact being read off of a screen. I also am really tired of everyone and their brother trying to get me to subscribe to yet another monthly service charge. Hold that thought, I have to turn the album over and pour another scotch. You want one...?   
While I agree that it was a mistake to do it; treat this as a "Lesson learned" and look for what you can do to heal it - at least a bit. Like folks said above, remember the fond LPs that you had. If there were some that you ABSOLUTELY loved, then search for them online and make an effort to buy them again. You know how we love to "have our collection". I have paid $80 for a OOP SACD, to complete my collection. Also see if you can live with CDs for some of the music not available on LPs anymore. I have a nice Bluetooth DAC, but hesitate do purchase a hi-rez, since I cannot verify the source nor get that "tangible" that makes the session a "complete" one. I continue to purchase CDs, and will do so in future. A physical media is different than a digital "download" and I can understand what you are feeling. Good luck and hope you can get back your music in one physical format or another!
YES! go to discogs.com and buy them again!
My ID is afaps and 80% of listed items are in PERFECT shape and affordable.

You only have two choices: get over it, or replace the ones you really miss. 

I got rid of half my collection every time I moved in the 80's and 90's, getting rid of things I didn't think I would ever be interested in listening to again.  Some of it was stuff so ubiquitous, or records I had listened to so many times, that I really didn't think I would ever put them on a turntable again (e.g., Stairway to Heaven) or just weren't that great (e.g. Gentle Giant, Keith Jarrett, etc.).  I was somewhat mistaken, and miss some of those. Some of it was because my tastes have changed over time and I was pretty sure I wouldn't be interested again (e.g. Tangerine Dream.)  I regret dumping all those imported pressings for nothing, but I don't miss listening to them, and we all make adverse financial decisions occasionally, which are usually dwarfed by the vicissitudes of life (e.g., market swings, divorce, medical costs.)

But you know, Tidal is not so bad, and most of us will be compelled to downsize, eventually... 


I can relate I lost thousand of mint lps in a house fire including 5x that in cds .It took yrs to let it go( the gear was easier) ,I like the "treat it as a death" lol.It has been 11 yrs since that day dec23th ( great xmas present) I lost everything including my house.If you feel you want to try to recoup start again,I have been collecting vinyl again .I find it to be both fun and mind numbing looking at all the stuff it took 30yrs to collect and seeing the prices .I have about 500 lp since almost all mint ,yes its been a pricey quest but it has been cool too.I also have digital  ,but I just like cracking open that gatefold and remembering  the days of rolling up one up on the centerfold pic.lol ...As of lately i am playing probly 90% vinyl ..
David Bowie Stage on now ...
In short "let it go don't look back look forward "
Hey lloydc,
Send that prog rock my way buddy !

Thanks everyone.  I appreciate the empathy from many of you.  I actually felt better once I started the forum and posted it.  Some of you mentioned the fun you had looking for replacement albums and that does sound like fun, though costly fun.  I'll take a deep breath, realize know one died, decide which albums to replace and move on.
Everyone does something at some point in their life that in retrospect they beat themselves up for.  I've let go of equipment that, at the time, seemed like the appropo or necessary thing to do.  Regret and remorse is a normal response but, like mourning, needs to be 'moved on from' lest it festers and darkens the balance of your self.  Acceptance of your fate and the rationale that created your situation is the healthy response.  You're human...we do dumb ass stuff with astounding frequency.  Welcome to the club, chum. ;)
I feel your pain.  Have you tried buying them back?
I have around 3,000 and have no idea what will happen to them when I am gone? I suppose heaven has LPs and Hell only CDs! I have heard of buyers remorse but sellers?

I could not imagine having to part with my LP's. I feel deeply saddened, at your loss, and must assume that some sort of personal crisis warranted such a dire need sell them off. I have a few thousand LP's, and they are my primary source of playback. I do have about 1000 CD's that I purchased through the years where vinyl, especially new releases, was totally unavoidable. I don't know if I was in a position where my CD's had to go, that I would feel too bad, but if my LP's had to go.... well that's a whole other story.

I guess you will just have to mourn your loss, as others on this post have suggested, and start to rebuild your vinyl library.

Good luck to you rayd

I suggest you not mourn or try to rebuild your collection before you understand what happened. In other words, stay with what you have done for now.
Once again, thanks for all the responses.  I'm headed to record stores and flea markets to rebuild my collection.  Thinking records were just "stuff" and I could easily part with the "stuff" was a mistake.  As many have said, live and learn, we all make mistakes, get over it and move on.  That's what I will do.  Thank you.  Now, I'm off to the record store!
I'm 82 years old.  Been in this hobby a longtime.  Sold my 3,000 plus record collection when I hit 80.  At that time I didn't think it was practical to hold on to them for an obvious reason.  I kept about 150 of my very favorites and the rest went to a reputable record dealer.  There were some regrets, but I have satisfaction knowing that the music will bring joy to others. Records are not just "stuff."  They are "music."  Pass it on.
Great contribution, fsmrz18! Thanks for adding to the discussion here. I love your perspective.
I'm not a professional, but I do take personal interest in the field. Adding to the condolences above we do tend to form our identities around our music collections, little surprise we take the loss of our music as a blow or death. Your response is exactly as anyone elses would be after that many years of ownership. I'm young myself and always selling music out of my collection as album lose my interest or my identity adapts & I lose ability to relate to old favorites. Some sales give me pause and some mean nothing to me and the difference is generally how involved I feel with the culture surrounding the music; little to do with my enjoyment of the music or the quality of recording. I imagine selling records that have been with you for so much time it can feel as if you're forcibly being dragged into the present day and away from your roots.
It is just stuff. When you lose something it becomes suddenly much more important than when you had it. Try to look to the future and consider all the new music you might not have discovered if you had kept your old collection in heavy rotation. Think of music as an endless journey of discovery rather than a destination.