I could never figure out why the load on the two legs has to be balanced, do your electric devices all turn on and off at the same time? There is always going to be an imbalance.
The requirement to be balanced is not to within 0.0001 %, but to avoid severe imbalances, especially at 50% or higher load. Being within 20% is probably OK. This reduces the need for the neutral to be 2x as big, and I believe also has consequences on the transformer.
If you have a 200A service and are drawing 30A you care a lot less.