There's a truly profound & deep as the ocean issue at play here. The incontrovertible source of the reflexivity embodied in the often stated sentiment, "I'm not giving it away" needs to be understood. The resistance of many sellers to doing so is ferocious. It has to do with control issues fueled by unexamined & undealt with emotions that they are often too unwilling to remotely deal with - choosing rationalized denial instead. The economics here make this more then clear much of the time. Money represents 3 things only - time, effort & energy. The first in particular is an irretrievably, irreplaceable commodity. One that so many are prepared "to give away" (in addition to the other two) to pursue what is often the illusion of gaining the prosperity money is a component of. There are partial exceptions of course - such a when you need to finance something specific with X amount of dollars that cannot be easily supplemented by other resources. This is too rarely the case however. All studies show the human mind is wired to be substantially more sensitive to loss then gain. Actions are precipitated by loss 3 to 4 times as easily as gain. Its a stubbornness built into us that is no longer as rational as when it meant living or dying regarding our food supply when we hunted to eat. Loss of food stored was always more keenly felt then the urge to go out & hunt (unless we were ravenous). Our most powerful intellectual attribute, our imagination just intensifies it near infinitely in modern times - fueled by old, deep emotional programming caused by bad experiences . It makes us weaker as we desperately pretend it does the reverse. All of us - its simply a matter of degree.
Whats required is true strength - not arrived at easily. Otherwise referred to as maturity. The maturity to realize that when your unconscious tells you that it is time for something you own (or in general) to go out of your life - you let it. In the most efficient way possible - including not squandering irreplaceable time (& the other 2) - so you can get on with the next phase of your life. The meaning of life is always most fundamentally: To Learn. It can really be a B at times & for many, especially here.
Squandering time, effort & energy can thus easily become negatively addictive while rationalizing it with a vengeance. Notice how many will just double down petulantly when this pointed out to them. Their masculinity (usually a man) feels threatened & is instinctively responded to. No man is unaffected but the genuinely strong & mature ones have learned to let go.
Whats required is true strength - not arrived at easily. Otherwise referred to as maturity. The maturity to realize that when your unconscious tells you that it is time for something you own (or in general) to go out of your life - you let it. In the most efficient way possible - including not squandering irreplaceable time (& the other 2) - so you can get on with the next phase of your life. The meaning of life is always most fundamentally: To Learn. It can really be a B at times & for many, especially here.
Squandering time, effort & energy can thus easily become negatively addictive while rationalizing it with a vengeance. Notice how many will just double down petulantly when this pointed out to them. Their masculinity (usually a man) feels threatened & is instinctively responded to. No man is unaffected but the genuinely strong & mature ones have learned to let go.